When it comes to decluttering clothes, people often say, “Be ruthless.” But what does that really mean? Being ruthless isn’t about getting rid of everything in sight or forcing yourself to let go of items you’re not ready to part with. For me, it’s about having honest and sometimes uncomfortable conversations with yourself.
It’s about questioning why you’re holding onto something—again and again. Are you keeping it because you might wear it someday? Because it’ll fit once you lose the weight? Because you loved it when you were 20 and going clubbing, but now you’re 30 with two kids, and it no longer suits your life or your body? Or are you keeping it because someone else thinks it’s who you should be?
Ruthlessness, in this sense, is about honesty. It’s about aligning your wardrobe with who you are now—not who you used to be or who others expect you to be.
Sentimental vs. Taking Up Space
Distinguishing sentimental clothes from ones that are just taking up space is key. Ask yourself: How do I feel when I hold this? Does it spark happy memories? The emphasis is on happy.
If an item reminds you of a difficult or sad time in your life, it’s okay to let it go. And if you’re holding onto something out of guilt because it was a gift, but you never actually wear it, that’s just unnecessary clutter.
For genuinely sentimental items that you don’t wear, consider putting them in a memory box instead of keeping them in your wardrobe. Your wardrobe should be a space for clothes you actually use and love, not a storage unit for nostalgia.
The Emotional Barriers
One of the biggest barriers to decluttering clothes is the weight of who we used to be or think we should be. Clothes carry so much emotional baggage—societal pressures, weight changes, guilt over money spent.
If you’re struggling with letting go because you feel you wasted money, consider reselling. Platforms like eBay or Vinted are great options. You can recoup some of that cost while giving your clothes a second life.
The “Someday” Trap
We’ve all been there: “I might wear this someday.” But ask yourself, Are you really going to?
When did you last wear it? A year ago? Five years ago?
What situation would you actually wear it in? Is it as far-fetched as, “If my friend has a tiger-themed party in Spain”?
Why haven’t you worn it yet? Is it itchy? Too tight?
Here’s a trick: Wear it tomorrow. On the school run, to work, or even just around the house. You’ll quickly figure out if it’s something you genuinely like or if it’s time to let it go.
Clothes That Don’t Fit
If you’re holding onto clothes that no longer fit—either because you hope they’ll fit again someday or out of nostalgia—let them go.
They’re not helping you feel good about yourself today. Your wardrobe should be a reflection of who you are now—not who you might be someday.
Dealing with Expensive Items
Letting go of expensive clothes that no longer fit or suit your style can be tough. To make it easier, find a resale site that specialises in designer items or use platforms like Vinted. Seeing them go to a new home—and getting a bit of money back—can take the sting out of parting with them.
Practical Tips for Letting Go
If decluttering feels overwhelming, start small. Don’t dive into your entire wardrobe at once—start with something simple like socks or underwar to build confidence.
When you’re ready to tackle clothes, break them into categories: jeans, leggings, skirts, jumpers, t-shirts, dresses, etc. Seeing how much you have of each type can help you make better decisions.
And remember: Take breaks. Decluttering is emotionally and physically taxing, so don’t push yourself too hard.
The Impact of Being Ruthless
When you’re truly ruthless—logical and honest—you see results faster. You won’t have to keep revisiting the same items, and you’ll quickly get down to a wardrobe filled only with things you love and wear.
The result? A lighter, freer feeling. It’s like dropping off a massive bag at the charity shop—but multiplied. You’ll feel less weighed down by choices and more confident in your space and your style.
Being ruthless isn’t about being harsh; it’s about being true to yourself. And when you’re able to do that, you’ll find your wardrobe—and your life—transformed.
If you need help with decluttering your wardrobe because you feel overwhelmed or have a lack of time, get in touch! Wardrobes are actually one of my most favourite areas to declutter for my clients! Book in a free consultation call with me today.
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